GRACE. You gotta give it to get it.

GRACE. That's what I heard today.  GRACE means forgiving the people you love, even if you don't feel like they deserve it.  I heard that LOUD & CLEAR today.  I often hear Divine Guidance.  Most of the time its soft & I have to be calm to hear it.  Today They (God & the angels) spoke loud & clear, even though I wasn't calm at all.

Most of you know me as fun-Steph, party-Steph, positive & good vibes-Steph. And that ain't no lie. I am that girl.  But occasionally...I said occasionally I just catch that fiyah!  I'm used to being in charge & when I bump into other people who are also used to being in charge, sometimes it ain't pretty.  Today was one of those days.


I spent most of the day looking like this.
  
When I was at my maddest point I simply heard...GRACE.
What does that mean, I wondered?

GRACE means forgiving the people you love, even if you feel they don't deserve it.

Oooh-oooh. That's not what I wanted to hear!  But that was my lesson for today.  When you find that your closest folks are getting on your last nerve...grace. Why?  Because we often forget that most people are truly trying their best.  They are using their best communication skills, their best negotiation skills, their best listening skills.  And even though we may think that they are totally horrible at those skills...they are doing their best.  Most of the time they are not trying to purposely challenge you. They simply don't have any other skills to deal with the moment. They are doing their best.
 
After hearing all this I was still HOT!!!  I just wasn't ready for that forgiving thing yet.  So I tried to find 10 things that I loved about my loved one.  I have to admit. It took me a minute!  But I came up with things like....he comes home to me every night, he wants me to go places with him, he is spontaneous, he makes me laugh almost every day...& more.  After I got to 10 he walked near me & I smiled at him ...and the smile came from inside.  It was genuine.

OK..maybe not that big.  I was still just a little mad...but the grace took over & started to clear the mad away.

Then I heard....WHEN YOU GIVE GRACE, YOU GET GRACE.

This was not an easy lesson to hear today.  Not one I probably wanted to learn, but one that will make me a better person & may even make my home & my job more peaceful places to be.

GRACE...means forgiving the people you love, even if they don't deserve it.  Who knows... you may need someone to forgive you someday when your best frustrates them.  Remember...WHEN YOU GIVE GRACE, YOU GET GRACE. You gotta give it to get it.